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Monday, July 16, 2012

9 Ways to Turn Around a Bad Day

Had a lousy morning?  Things going wrong everywhere?   Someone was a jerk to you?

I've had my share of these recently.  Bad news, family in trouble, work chaos, fill in the "Oh No" blank.  And I will admit, sometimes it's easier than others to turn a day around.

Typically, starting the day with exercise will set me on the right path.  But sometimes I choose to snuggle with my little girl instead of get up and hit the treadmill.  

We've all had those rough starts.  Not to worry. The rest of your day need not be a disaster. It can in fact become one of your best.  Here's some possible solutions:

1. Remember that the past does not equal the future.
There is no such thing as a "run of bad luck." The reason people believe such nonsense is that the human brain creates patterns out of random events and remembers the events that fit the pattern.

2. Refuse to believe the whole day will be bad.
If you believe the rest of your day will be as challenging as what's already happened, then rest assured: You'll end up doing something (or saying) something that will make sure that your prediction comes true.

3. Get a sense of proportion.
Think about the big picture: Unless something life-changing has happened (like the death of a loved one), chances are that in two weeks, you'll have forgotten completely about whatever it was that has your shorts in a twist today.  My grandma says "they'll never know it a hundred years from now."

4. Change your threshold for "good" and "bad."
Decide that a good day is any day that you're above ground. Similarly, decide that a bad day is when somebody steals your car and drives it into the ocean. Those types of definitions make it easy to be happy–and difficult to be sad.

Someone told me recently that "I can't feed my family" is a gripe.  

"The rosebushes in the median are way too tall" is also a gripe.  The first one is legitimate, the second is not, but they will sound the same!

5.  Feed your brain some positive inputs
Your body and brain are in a feedback loop: A bad mood makes you tired, which makes your mood worse, and so forth. Interrupt the pattern with positive inputs.  Who always makes you happy?  Call them.   Who is an incredibly funny writer?  Read something.   Who inspires you?  Find them.

6. Be grateful - in writing.
The primary reason you're convinced it's a bad day is that you're focusing on whatever went wrong. However, for everything going badly, there are probably dozens of things going well. Grab a pen, and write down everything you are HAPPY about.  This sounds so corny, but it works!

I read some stats awhile back that if the world were a village of 100 people, then:
  • one person would have HIV/AIDS
  • one person would have a college education
  • 67 people would be hungry.
I always come back to this.  How come I am the ONE with a college education? I am not hungry.   I need to pull it together and do what one of those hungry people would do if they could be me for a day.

7. Retail therapy.
Go to Target and see what you can buy for under $7.   Do not blow your budget or believe for a minute that you can spend your way to happiness. But the fact is, people overspend because it tends to give us a moment of feel-good.   Retailers know this.   It won't make you geniunely happy, but it can get you over a bad-mood-hump.  Only take $7 cash in the store with you.  Now pretend it's your allowance and go crazy.
NOTE: this advice is sure to ruffle some feathers, so please read it again -- do not blow your budget and only take $7 cash in the store.

8.  Extreme nutrition
Go get an organic green smoothie.  Or a fresh carrot juice.  It works.

9. Extreme exercise.
If you are a walker, go run your guts out.  Even if you only last 30 seconds, tear it up for until you can't any more.  Rinse and repeat.

If you work a 9 - 5 office job, I realize number 8 and 9 may require a really early, long lunch.  Take it.  Your productivity in the end will be worth it.  Tell your co-workers you have an important health appointment and get going.

Happy Day~
Angela

10 Ways You Do NOT Want to Describe Yourself

A recent Forbes post lists some words that are great when used by other people to describe you, but you should never use to describe yourself.  Here they are, with a few subtle edits by Angela (verified by the "school of hard knocks"):

"Authority."

If you have to say you're an authority, you aren't.

Show your expertise instead. "Presenter at SXSW" or "Delivered TED Talk at Long Beach 2010" indicates a level of authority. Unless you can prove it, "social media marketing authority" just means you spend a ton of time on Twitter.

"Global"

The vast majority of businesses can sell goods or services worldwide; the ones that can't--like restaurants--are obvious. Only use "global" if that capability is not assumed or obvious; otherwise you just sound like a really small company trying to appear really big.

"Innovative."

Most people claim to be innovative. Most are not. That's okay, because innovation isn't a requirement for success.

If you are innovative, don't say it. Prove it. Describe the products you've developed. Describe the processes you've modified. Give us something real so your innovation is unspoken but evident... which is always the best kind of evident to be.

"Creative."

See particular words often enough and they no longer make an impact. "Creative" is one of them. (Go to LinkedIn and check out some profiles; "creative" will appear in the majority.)
"Creative" is just one example. Others include extensive, effective, proven, dynamic, influential, team player, collaborative... some of those terms truly may describe you, but since they're also being used to describe everyone else they've lost their impact.

"Curator."
Museums have curators. Libraries have curators. Tweeting links to stuff you find interesting doesn't make you a curator... or an authority or a guru.

"Passionate."
Say you're incredibly passionate about incorporating an elegant design aesthetic in everyday objects and--to me at least--you sound a little scary. Same if you're passionate about developing long-term customer solutions. Try focus, concentration, or specialization instead. Save the passion for your loved one.

"Unique."
Fingerprints are unique. Snowflakes are unique.   "Better" matters more than "unique."  Show how you're better than the competition and in the minds of customers you will be unique.

"Guru."
People who try to be clever for the sake of being clever are anything but. Don't be a self-proclaimed ninja, sage, connoisseur, guerilla, wonk, egghead... it's awesome when your customers affectionately describe you in that way, but when you do it it's apparent you're trying way too hard.

"Incredibly..."
Check out some random bios and you'll find plenty of further-modified descriptors: "Incredibly passionate," "profoundly insightful," "extremely captivating..." isn't it enough to be insightful or captivating? Do you have to be incredibly passionate?
If you must use over-the-top adjectives to describe yourself, at least spare us the further modification. Trust us; we already get it.

Good information, Forbes, but that is the easy part.  It's always simpler to know what NOT to do.

But what DO you say?

Here are a couple ideas:

"Curious."    It sounds like you will seek out solutions.

"Healthy".   Taking care of yourself is en vogue (FINALLY!).

"A Dreamer."   Sounds like you want good things for yourself and your projects.  (And yes, this could just be an Angela thing.)

Angela Broderick Bedell